May 29th from 7 to 9pm
May 29th from 7 to 9pm
"Fear and self-doubt have always been the greatest enemies of human potential." - Brian Tracy. If you want to perform optimally at anything that requires you to think strategically, plan and make decisions, then you need to find a way for your mind to recover.
“Create a clearing in the dense forest
of your life and wait there patiently”
If your identity is linked to the ego-self you will live with self-doubt.
What does that mean?
Well, if your sense of who you are comes from what you do, or the aspects of your life that you like to put forward to the world as you, you will live with self-doubt.
Now, with a reservoir of self compassion, if something I try doesn’t work out, I can keep going on the path I’m on - even if I have doubts and fears.
I like to think that being positive is useful in some situations. Yet in other circumstances it's ok not to like something anymore or know it's no longer for you. It doesn't mean you're a failure or that there's something wrong with you. It's acknowledging that there are many colours that add to the canvas of life. What we dislike, and our losses and sorrows gives depth and beauty to the painting. It's all part of the human experience.
Compassion is when love meets our pain. You can use this meditation over and over throughout the day. Even placing your hand on your heart will remind you of that love when times are tough.
“Very little grows on jagged rock. Be ground. Be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are. You’ve been stoney for too many years. Try something different... Surrender” - Rumi
Self compassion allows us to take the armouring off from around our heart we’ve worn to protect it from fear. We can then share the love within us freely, without feeling we need to be different in order to love, and be loved fully.
Mindfulness meditation for me has given me an inner freedom. I love the greater level of understanding it provides when I’m courageous enough to sit with all that is arising in me. A world of choices open up instead of a feeling of helplessness or fear. I can give to myself, or ask from others, what it is I truly need.
The aim of meditation isn’t to relax or stop thinking. It’s a training for our mind and heart that in turn, transforms our life. We can learn to turn down the internal inner critic, filled with self-judgments that cripple our true potential.
If we’re spending our time trying to be a certain way that’s not part of our natural expression, but is part of who we think we should be, we’ll spend our whole life judging ourself for not being good enough. We feel a chronic state of fear, shame and unworthiness
FOMO presents in various ways. You may feel like you can’t stop checking emails or Facebook and Instagram in case you miss something. You may feel a sense like everyone else is having a great time travelling or studying and your at home watching Netflix. You may feel like you have to say yes to everything that comes your way in case you miss out.
"Instead of mercilessly judging and criticising yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?"
One of my favourite practices to find stillness can be done anywhere, anytime. It is finding the tiniest of moments in our everyday lives to stop, to observe stillness, quietness, move to a place of peace.
There is a minute moment of pause within each breath we take. A moment of stillness that exists between each breath in and each breath out. Since we take up to 30,000 breathes per day that is 30,000 moments of stillness we have access to!
"Difficulty and obstacles, if properly understood and used, can often turn out to be an unexpected source of strength. In the biographies of the masters, you will often find that had they not experienced difficult circumstances they would not have discovered the strength they needed to rise above them."- Sogyal Riponche
It means that we learn to sit in the midst of turbulence and make room for all that we are experiencing. This goes against our natural tendency to be aversive to anxiety, fear, sadness, grief or the "unpleasant" range of feelings, yet when we bring a kind presence to our suffering we find our true healing, wisdom and strength. When we hold all that we are feeling in a field of loving awareness we learn the true vastness of our heart.
In Asian languages, the word for mind and the word for heart are the same. We may think of mindfulness as being something to do with purely paying attention (like in the need to figure something out), yet compassion and kindness to oneself are intrinsically woven into it.
We marry the qualities of the heart and the mind and this is particularly important when we're experiencing difficult emotions.
Dance is one of the many pathways towards finding stillness, (which may sound almost impossible) however, it is part of the foundation that ‘Dancing Freedom’ practice is built on. It is the place we arrive after we have danced our whole body alive! We are connected to our Centre.
Tarnie will guide this easy introduction into intuitive, mindful movement.
Mindfulness of the body allows us to live fully. It brings healing, wisdom and freedom
Grief is rapidly changing and unpredictable initially that it's hard to know where you're "at". However for me the roller coaster ride has levelled out somewhat and I've gained some wisdom thanks to the profound teachings of my mentors and speakers that have helped me on this journey. I'd like to share some of this with you.
Despite what we'd expect, winning the lottery, wealth accumulation, marriage and career advancement don't make us happier long term. Science has shown that after just six months most lottery winners return to their baseline level of happiness. Science has even shown that paraplegics eventually return to the same levels of happiness they had prior to their injury.