Why Self-Doubt Is Holding You Back

If your identity is linked to the ego-self you will live with self-doubt. 

What does that mean?

Well, if your sense of who you are comes from what you do, or the aspects of your life that you like to put forward to the world as you, you will live with self-doubt. 

Why I'm No Longer a Positive Person

I like to think that being positive is useful in some situations. Yet in other circumstances it's ok not to like something anymore or know it's no longer for you. It doesn't mean you're a failure or that there's something wrong with you. It's acknowledging that there are many colours that add to the canvas of life. What we dislike, and our losses and sorrows gives depth and beauty to the painting. It's all part of the human experience. 

“Very little grows on jagged rock. Be ground. Be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are. You’ve been stoney for too many years. Try something different... Surrender” - Rumi
Self compassion allows us to take the armouring off from around our heart we’ve worn to protect it from fear. We can then share the love within us freely, without feeling we need to be different in order to love, and be loved fully. 

What Do You Feel?

Mindfulness meditation for me has given me an inner freedom. I love the greater level of understanding it provides when I’m courageous enough to sit with all that is arising in me. A world of choices open up instead of a feeling of helplessness or fear. I can give to myself, or ask from others, what it is I truly need.

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

The aim of meditation isn’t to relax or stop thinking. It’s a training for our mind and heart that in turn, transforms our life. We can learn to turn down the internal inner critic, filled with self-judgments that cripple our true potential.

Accepting Yourself as you are

If we’re spending our time trying to be a certain way that’s not part of our natural expression, but is part of who we think we should be, we’ll spend our whole life judging ourself for not being good enough. We feel a chronic state of fear, shame and unworthiness

How To Overcome FOMO

FOMO presents in various ways. You may feel like you can’t stop checking emails or Facebook and Instagram in case you miss something. You may feel a sense like everyone else is having a great time travelling or studying and your at home watching Netflix. You may feel like you have to say yes to everything that comes your way in case you miss out. 

Finding Stillness In the Smallest Of Things

One of my favourite practices to find stillness can be done anywhere, anytime. It is finding the tiniest of moments in our everyday lives to stop, to observe stillness, quietness, move to a place of peace.

There is a minute moment of pause within each breath we take. A moment of stillness that exists between each breath in and each breath out. Since we take up to 30,000 breathes per day that is 30,000 moments of stillness we have access to!

Becoming A Spiritual Warrior

"Difficulty and obstacles, if properly understood and used, can often turn out to be an unexpected source of strength. In the biographies of the masters, you will often find that had they not experienced difficult circumstances they would not have discovered the strength they needed to rise above them."- Sogyal Riponche

It means that we learn to sit in the midst of turbulence and make room for all that we are experiencing. This goes against our natural tendency to be aversive to anxiety, fear, sadness, grief or the "unpleasant" range of feelings, yet when we bring a kind presence to our suffering we find our true healing, wisdom and strength. When we hold all that we are feeling in a field of loving awareness we learn the true vastness of our heart.  

The Two Wings of Awareness: Mindfulness & Heartfulness

In Asian languages, the word for mind and the word for heart are the same. We may think of mindfulness as being something to do with purely paying attention (like in the need to figure something out), yet compassion and kindness to oneself are intrinsically woven into it. 

We marry the qualities of the heart and the mind and this is particularly important when we're experiencing difficult emotions. 

Finding Stillness through Freedom Dance

Dance is one of the many pathways towards finding stillness, (which may sound almost impossible) however, it is part of the foundation that ‘Dancing Freedom’ practice is built on. It is the place we arrive after we have danced our whole body alive! We are connected to our Centre. 

Tarnie will guide this easy introduction into intuitive, mindful movement. 

The Antidote To Grief Is Compassion

Grief is rapidly changing and unpredictable initially that it's hard to know where you're "at". However for me the roller coaster ride has levelled out somewhat and I've gained some wisdom thanks to the profound teachings of my mentors and speakers that have helped me on this journey. I'd like to share some of this with you. 

How To Be Happier

Despite what we'd expect, winning the lottery, wealth accumulation, marriage and career advancement don't make us happier long term. Science has shown that after just six months most lottery winners return to their baseline level of happiness. Science has even shown that paraplegics eventually return to the same levels of happiness they had prior to their injury.

Letting Go To Present Awareness (Includes Guided Meditation)

Resilient people are often considered as those who can bounce back from tragedy or a setback and achieve success. Those who possess phenomenal inner strength, are tough and stoic. However in times of stress, sadness, grief, pressure and overwhelm it's compassion not toughness that leads to resilience.

Our capacity to recover from life's challenges depends not on how tough we are, but on our ability to include our suffering - just like we would for someone we love - with empathy and care.