Accepting Yourself as you are
How much of your life is spent trying to be who you think you should be?
•Trying to make your body look how you think it should look?
•Trying to be the success career-wise you think you should be?
•Trying to be the friend/parent/partner you should be?
So much of our energy can end up going towards trying to meet these expectations. It’s exhausting.
And it’s painful. A fear is created when we fall short - it feels like something is wrong.
So we try harder to be who we think we should be. We get busy doing more. We force ourselves to change.
To find out if you’re at home in yourself or if you’re trying to be who you should be, you can try this inquiry:
What stands between me accepting myself just as I am, in this moment right now?
As you explore this you may notice a resistance arise “well if I accept myself as I am then I won’t be who I think I should be.”
You might then further explore when you’re trying to be who you think you should be how you feel? What actions do you then take? Do those actions help you change?
If we’re spending our time trying to be a certain way that’s not part of our natural expression, but is part of who we think we should be, we’ll spend our whole life judging ourself for not being good enough. We feel a chronic state of fear, shame and unworthiness
Should is an argument with reality; a fight with what is. Self compassion helps us to live in the natural state of grace, flow and ease. It gives us permission to live as our true self and undo the beliefs about who we think we should be 🖤