Do you judge yourself too much?
Do you think you’re good enough just as you are?
Or do you find yourself ofte feeling: “something’s wrong” or “something’s wrong with me”?
It’s only when we stop being at war with ourself can we blossom into all that we are destined to be.
My spiritual teacher, Tara Brach, explains this war as “the trance of unworthiness”.
The spiritual teachings she has shared with me have enabled me to unhook from the fear and shame that hijacks my body when I’m in this trance.
I find myself in the trance regularly so I felt the need to explore self-compassion deeply, hence the last trip to the USA.
It’s so common in the patients I work with that I am making self-compassion one of the main themes of what I teach (our next retreat and an 8 week program starting soon will include a lot of these teachings).
These feelings that we’re bad, deficient and unworthy often come from stories we tell ourselves. When we examine these stories mindfully with a kind awareness, we often find even though they feel real, they’re not true.
Mindfulness and self-compassion are what help us to awaken from this feeling that we’re bad, separate and alone.
“Very little grows on jagged rock. Be ground. Be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are. You’ve been stoney for too many years. Try something different... Surrender” - Rumi
Self compassion allows us to take the armouring off from around our heart we’ve worn to protect it from fear. We can then share the love within us freely, without feeling we need to be different in order to love, and be loved fully.
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