What Do You Feel?
I spent so many years thinking emotions that felt unpleasant were wrong.
This spiritual journey has taught me that my anger contains an intelligence. Often it means a need is not being met. Expressing how we feel and what we need to others without lashing out or being passive aggressive leads to stronger, more mature and healthier relationships.
I've learnt that grief is a natural response when we lose what matters and resisting it doesn’t work. It needs boat loads of compassion from ourself and others. It’s a time for self care and support.
I’ve learnt that the mind is naturally conditioned to look for fear and if I’m not mindful of it I can spend large chunks of my time worrying about something possibly going wrong that’s actually unlikely to happen.
We’re conditioned to think we need to get rid of unpleasant feelings. We numb what we feel with food and wine, we blame others, we avoid the uncomfortable conversations. But these all limit our choices.
It’s been helpful for me to remember that every emotion has an intelligence if i can pause and sit with it.
Mindfulness meditation for me has given me an inner freedom. I love the greater level of understanding it provides when I’m courageous enough to sit with all that is arising in me. A world of choices open up instead of a feeling of helplessness or fear. I can give to myself, or ask from others, what it is I truly need.