Attachment Styles, Intimacy and How to Make a Relationship Last with Dr Clare Rosoman
Do you know what your attachment style is in relationships?
Are you securely or insecurely attached to your (current or previous) partner?
Do you fall into an anxious/avoidant attachment style?
Anxiously attached: you might worry when there’s distance between you and your partner or ask: “are they really there for me?” Or “Am I really loveable?” Or “why haven’t they called/texted yet?”
If your attachment style is avoidant: do you shut down your needs & try and cope alone? Do you only rely on yourself, and not show your emotions in times of need?
In Episode 10 (timed with #valentinesday) I speak with one of Australia’s leading couples & sex therapists, Dr Clare Rosoman who uses Emotional Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
❤️EFT works at the level of the bond between a couple and their attachment styles.
❤️It looks at the repetitive patterns that play out that create fear, and what the deeper needs are of each person in the relationship..
Our culture gives us the message that being an adult means we’re independent & self-sufficient and that we shouldn’t need to rely on others. But research shows that the more secure our attachment is to our partner, the more likely we are to pursue our goals, take risks, we’re more confident AND we’re more likely to be successful.
“Secure attachment is like a beautifully strong and flexible piece of elastic that connects two people. The more secure you are, the more stretch there is in that elastic and the further you go and the bigger risks you take safe in the knowledge that you’re still tethered to that person and they’re there for you when you need them. But, the moment that elastic is brittle and the attachment is insecure, then there’s no stretch and the elastic is easily snapped. If you feel like your life line to your safe haven is perilous like that, you’re not going to stretch that elastic” 🎤 Dr Clare Rosoman
A gift to give to yourself this V-Day could be to learn your attachment style 💝 even if you’re single this can set your future relationships up to be healthy. 70-75% of couples who do this work have lasting success.
Intimacy = Into Me See ❤️
Find out more about Clare: http://www.aceft.com.au